1 . God must be at the center of your marraige
Most importantly, our priorities have to be right.
Admittedly, God hasn’t always been number one in our relationship.
We always knew God was important- but we didn’t really understand what it meant to put Him in charge.
I remember earlier in our relationship, going to church and being involved in our church was not a priority.
I was under the impression that it was a “choice” or a “gift” that I should give to God of my time, talent, or otherwise.
But honestly…it wasn’t even a priority for me to give that gift.
I thought church was about the people and the process, not the actual participation in and becoming part of Christ’s body.
I’ve learned so much since then.
Six years ago, sleeping in was often more important than attending church.
Six years ago, I fell asleep in church regularly.
Six years ago, I didn’t know very many people at my church and I wasn’t interested in knowing them.
I wanted to be able to attend - or not - without anyone noticing or missing me if I wasn’t there.
…as if the most important Being in the universe didn’t already see me and know my heart…
Anyway, somewhere early in our marraige, a youth pastor left our church.
At the time, the folks who did know us, often said how great they thought Zach would be at the youth pastor job.
Fast forward, the next youth pastor left and Zach ended up next in line.
It is funny how God works.
After almost 4 years of our lives being very intwined with the church, congregation, church activities, etc., I can’t imagine going back to my old mindset.
When Zach started this job, I lamented often about the difficulties of being a pastor’s wife.
If I’m honest, I do still lament, but I recognize the beautiful things it has brought into our lives. At the top of that list?
Building a relationship with God that allows me to feel comfortable putting Him first.
I’m only human, so of course I am not always perfect at keeping God there - but I’ve never regretted knowing that is where He belongs and recentering my life around God.
Zach and I both love spending time with our church family now - because we’ve allowed them to become a family.
On the rare occasions that we argue, I find myself praying for him, where before I went out of my way to not even think of him.
Since the end of 2024, we have started studying the Bible together and praying together before bed. This new habit has really made an impact on our whole family! We take turns choosing the topics or book of the Bible to study, then close in prayer.
This practice has been meaningful on so many levels. Most importantly, we both feel God’s presence and are more aware of His blessings on our family, in our marriage, and in our lives.